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Am I a terrible person if I want my friend from home to break up with her boyfriend so I can date her?
Well no. I wouldn’t say you’re a terrible person, that seems a bit extreme. Feelings are feelings, and they’re weird and inexplicable and sometimes they seem inappropriate but they are what they are. I would suggest you examine the situation more carefully. Is your friend happy with her boyfriend? Does he treat her well and is she in a safe and healthy relationship? If so, then perhaps you might need to consider her happiness with the relationship over your own feelings. Which sucks. But if this is something you really want, and you think it might end up working out, then why not say something? However, there is the possibility that the friendship could get all weird if things don’t work out. Perhaps you could make a pro/con list. I am a huge fan of those. Let me know what happens, but rest assured that you are not a terrible person. •
